In Bed With Married Women or Men
Published on January 14, 2021
Many things can lead to infidelity, but what is so special to sleep with a married women or men? As many say the one thing that people can’t get over is variety. It’s everywhere; in the food you eat, in clothes you wear, in gadgets you use, in places you live, and in people you meet along with to have sex with. Married Women & Men attracts a lot of attention from single and committed people. Why? This Because there is a taboo factor there. It’s out of their reach and that makes them want it even more. Also, it’s secretive. Gives another kind of high. It’s seductive. It gives you a sense of feeling otherworldly as you are indulging in something that is outside of your world.
You might have heard that experienced women are the best teachers for sex and for full enjoyment of the process you should go for that. The same goes for men also. Experience allows them to properly care for you and then teach you the skills that are secretive yet successful. Now, there might be lots of reasons for a married woman or man to be attracted to you. That is secondary, the thing is that he/she is attracted towards you and you are feeling something same towards them. But you have questions? Let’s go through them.
The number one reason is that your sexual needs will be fulfilled. And not in some rudimentary way but in an explosive way. Research says that most married women or men go into the extramarital affair when they are not getting enough sex and they want something more. If it’s based on sex, then you are going to get an awesome amount of sex. Wild sex with all kinds of kinkiness can be enjoyed here. Also, there are lots of things to be offered on the table. The adventure and taboo nature of the relationship make your time extremely enjoyable and you can try out something entirely different in terms of sex positions and whatnot.
The element of risk adds to the dopamine release which gives us a sense of adventure and that’s what we are looking for, right? The rebellious feeling associated with this kind of relationship makes you feel like something powerful and that is just pure adrenaline coursing through your veins. Also, there is the no-strings-attached rule here meaning you can get on with your life without any problem from your partner's side. It’s a separate world where you can come and go without having any disastrous effect on your personal life. Sometimes it becomes a relaxing zone where you can have enjoyment and then talk about things you are going through in life. Since the other person is also dealing with life problems, he/she might help you through their wisdom and experience.
Also, the married person understands the need for space and things about emotional stability. She/he could manage your moods and give you ample space to create your own life. There is no fear of committing or normal conversations that you go through in a relationship. Since both of you have your own life, it becomes easier for you to balance the two.
What a person will go through during this relationship?
A person involved in a sexual relationship with married men or women goes through a lot. There are lots of factors involved here and he/she might need to be aware of all of that. Yes, it has that appeal because it’s like getting away from your normal life. This relationship is to do with sex and there is no risk of too much involvement so you might feel safe. No drama could seep into your life. Also, the person who is in a relationship with married men or women doesn’t need to invest a lot of loans in the relationship because the other person is taking care of it.
The very first thing which you feel in these relationships is that you are special. Because you have been chosen after someone has seen a lot of worlds and there must be something in you which they have found appealing and worthy. This adds to your confidence. The other person is willing to risk his/her marriage to get in the bed with you, you must be something unique. There is this whole 'alpha person' vibe to it.
Difficulties Associated with this relationship?
Yes, there are some downsides too. Not necessarily they happen but they are there. It’s like all the good things in the universe. The very first thing is that your partner might learn about the affair. Or her/his partner learns about an affair. Then it becomes extremely difficult as the relationship is ending abruptly. It’s like a breakup and breakups where things end suddenly are very painful. There is so much left to be said or done there and it becomes quite difficult to let go of that easily. The situation might be different you both mutually decide to end the relationship but it hurts a lot. There is a whole range of possibilities in these situations.
The other person meaning your married partner might feel that the end is near and she/he is willing to end the relationship abruptly. There might be some very strong reasons for that, such as divorce, family problems, or she or he must have realized something. Secondly, there is this problem of emotional entanglement. Sure, sex is physical but it is serviced on psychological needs. Same hormones and chemicals are released when you are having sex with a normal partner. This means that you are feeling loved and connected to that person. This might lead to the development of feelings on your part. There is no issue with that but it becomes complex when you are in love with the person but the other person is not willing to leave their partner. It leads to the end of the relationship and broken hearts. The same goes for another person too. If another person falls in love with you and you can’t commit anything right now or having your personal life somewhere else, it would become difficult to navigate this because it would lead to lots of damage to both of you.
You must know that there is a fine line where which you must walk on very considerably. Falling to either side will be harmful. Then there is this sense of guilt. Yes, you are fulfilling someone’s needs but you are also exploiting someone’s emotional vulnerability and this could lead to the breaking up of families. You are becoming a third person in a relationship that is based on a certain set of rules. Guilt can also be associated with the issue that you are having a relationship with a person who is committed to someone else. There might be children also and it would be extra difficult then to understand the situation. Surely, you will be connected to the person but that sense of guilt is always there knowing ta your heart.
But for some people, it is totally normal. It all depends from person to person. Some people make arguments that if not them, then he/she might have gone to someone else. So it should be them. It is a logical conclusion because married people go into these situations when they are extremely frustrated with their life’s situation and there is no other option left. Also, some people found it totally normal in the sense that they are helping someone emotionally and physically and it’s a good thing. It also strengthens the relationship of a married person with his partner as her/his frustration is getting an output through sex and the person is feeling satisfied.
There is the factor of risk involved where you could get caught. And these situations can be tricky. Gun or knife or something violent can happen and this might lead to lots of mess. The tip here is to go on hiding immediately and let the person involved handle the thing. Divorce and separation are quite messy and they become the topmost level of messy when kids are involved. And here you might get entangled amidst the chaos of emotional things and also it might lead to lots of guilt and shame of being found out.
What to remember when you are in this relationship?
Always remember to be discreet. Being discreet is the key when having affairs with married people. Keep in mind that when their partner is around, don’t message or call, otherwise, it could lead to doubts and then their investigation. You might make the situation difficult for your affair partner. Never spend the night at home unless and until you both are 200% sure that the married partner is not going to come home. If there is a single shred of a chance that he/she might come, don’t go dor it. You never know when something unexpected happens and he/s/he might return. It has happened in movies as well as in real life when people don’t wait for enough and reach the home before the partner’s flight has gone and then there is the unexpectedness of the flight being canceled. Wait for enough so that you both are sure enough that the partner is away from home.
Always use protection while having sex. Yes, it’s necessary don’t risk it, today you can buy condoms discreetly without having the need to show your phase in pharmacies. Protection is imperative you never know what someone is carrying through and also it prevents you from the complexities of pregnancy. Never cross the line with the married person. Yes, you both are in a relationship where you are fulfilling each other’s sexual needs but that doesn’t give you the power to make changes in each other’s life. Be clear about each other’s boundaries and state them clearly. Not involving emotionally also comes here and especially for single people out there. You have to be very clear in mind that she/he is still in love with her/his wife or husband and they are in this relationship just for sex and that is to going to be for short time.
Time is necessary here. You must be aware that this not going to go on forever. One day it’s going to end. Sure, you might not think about it necessarily but it’s there and you both are aware of it. So plan ahead. Don’t put too much responsibility on this thing and always focus on the future which is affected by your decision in real life. Meaning, don’t give this relationship too much importance, and be ready to move away.
Sometimes people get involved in an extramarital affair just to get revenge on their partners. And here you might feel used. You should be ready for it. It depends on our comfort level. Some people found it normal because they are getting sex and some find it quite difficult to digest that they just have been used for sex. Also, sometimes they might be having this affair for spicing up their life and this is the reason for their passion. You could return that passion as this is also spicing up your life.
How to balance life?
You need to be aware that this relationship is not your life. Sure, it’s like addiction and it’s fun but it’s not your actual life. Your actual life is out there. So balancing it out is necessary. Sticking to your daily routine is very essential. Whatever you are doing whether it’s studying, a job, or anything, stick to that with full focus because that is your priority and you have chosen that. That position has enabled you to get where you are today and yes, it might be the reason for the affair you are getting. Stay close to your routine so that you get a sense of completeness and a taste of reality.