A'TO'Z ORAL SEX EXPLAINED IN DEPTH
PUBLISHED ON 22 August , 2021
What is Oral Sex?
Any sexual activity which involves the use of the mouth or oral orifice (mouth) is called oral sex. It may be a cunningulus or blowjob. Yes, it is actual sex. For some people, oral sex is more pleasurable than normal sex and it confirms that penetrative sex is not the end-of-all sex. What makes oral sex really pleasurable is that everyone has different anatomy meaning the penis and vulva of every person will be really different and it will add to the variety. Also, since these areas are extra sensitive due to nerve endings, the use of wet sloppy tongue and smooth lining of mouth creates some of the most pleasurable sensations throughout the body, hence the pleasure point.
What about the smell?
Every person has a different body smell. It’s part of biology. Especially down there, everyone is different. Scientifically it’s called natural odor. And we tell you, citing from the research and sexologist speeches, that the odor is fine. You just need to freshen up before oral sex if you are worried about the smell. You can take a shower or bathe using soap and especially wash the genital area. Don’t have time for bathing? Uses paper towels or scented wipes to clean the area. Never use perfumes or deodorants there for easy shortcuts because they are not genital friendly and will add to bad taste later.
Yes, use of mouth means you are going to taste it. Genital juices are going to be there. And guess what, everybody tastes different down there. The thing which needs to be kept in mind during oral sex is that proper hygiene should be maintained. Aso, what you ate that day will also add to the taste of the juices. If you are planning for some oral tango, then try eating sweet fruits like pineapple, papaya, nutmeg, cinnamon, and celery to let your body secrete sweet juices.
Will It Lead To Pregnancy?
Never. That’s the fun part of oral sex. It can’t lead to pregnancy, whatever you do. But yes, STI risk is there. As STIs are spread through skin-to-skin contact, this is happening in the case of oral sex, so a little bit of risk is there. That’s why STI screening should be there. Also, if you are regular in oral sex, try to get regular oral exams too. Why? Well, the dentist will be able to see signs of sores, lumps, or any other abnormalities which will prevent future problems.
Now let’s talk about oral sex when you are doing it for a woman.
If Your Partner is a Woman
This means she will have a vagina. Simple? And there will be a vulva. That outgrowth is really sensitive and big. What to do with it? Let’s talk straight. You can flick the clit with your tongue. Light flicking will add to the fun and builds so much pleasure that you can’t imagine. It is just like a soft puppy tongue that licks an ice cream cone, slowly and softly.
If you want you can insert your tongue into the hole. It’s all up to the comfort of both the people. You can also combine the two elements. Some people like to insert fingers while using their tongue on the outside.
Oh yes, we have. Go step by step.
Step 1. Don’t undress her. Keep your tongue flat and start using long strokes over panties to get the fabric wet which will eventually get her wet.
Step 2. This will ready her for further action. Now, when she is ready, remove the panties and spend little time on the flesh outside. Lick inner thighs, nibble on them. Enjoy the feeling. Lick, slurp, nibble as you want to.
Step 3. Now, lay the tip of the wet tongue flat at the bottom and then lick upwards caressing the vulva in the way. Gauge the response of your partner. Repeat with variation if required otherwise keep doing it.
Step 4. While flexing your tongue use the tip to create tiny circles over the clitoral hood. This will generate a huge response from her body.
Step 5. Now is the time to use your fingers. Slowly pull the hood upwards, and with flexed tip focus on the clit. Light pressure is required here and then speeds up the things.
Step 6. When the rhythm is maintained, go over it again and again and bring her to heaven.
Any Specific Positions?
Yes, there are specific positions for oral sex that are far more pleasurable than normal sex. Also, you will have to think about neck cramps.
The most common position is where your partner lies on her back. She can use a cushion or pillow below her butt for support and you can kneel between her legs.
Here you will have to lie on your back and let her straddle your face. Let her control her movements and you guide her for pressure. This will allow you to fully access the mound.
Always a pleasure to return the gift as you get it. 69 is golden and it is the best you can get.
Safety & Cleaning
Yes, there are safety devices available for oral sex. You can use a dental dam. It is a thin latex covering barrier that can be placed over the vulva. Dental dams can be bought online or condoms can also be used as cover. Try to wash the genitals before giving oral and cleanup up should be with a gentle soap or gentle wipes.
If Your Partner is a Man
Well, the basic difference is that man will have a penis and scrotum. Circumcised or uncircumcised don’t make a large difference. Handjobs are great for starting and for moistening up the organ. Then you can expose the head if you want and start having fun. Deep throat is not always necessary, it depends upon the comfort level of both partners. Slow licking and slurping are also good. Also, if you as a woman don’t want to deepthroat but want to pleasure your partner you can try placing your tongue on the roof of your mouth and sucking powerfully which will create a vacuum and feel like a deep throat.
There is basic confusion between spitting, swallowing, or keeping the cum in the mouth. Again, this is for the comfort of the partner. If you are okay with the taste, then try as you want. You should discuss it with your partner. Your partner might like it when you swallow and visually feel satisfying but there are alternatives to do so where it seems like you swallowed which you can later spit.
Let’s discuss step by step –
Step 1. Start by slowly kissing the shaft up and down and then start using the tongue to moisten it. Start from the base and do a circular motion with it. Especially on the tip.
Step 2. The underside of the shaft is really sensitive and provides great pleasure when done in the right manner. You can flick the hole on the top and make a slurping sound for sound satisfaction.
Step 3. Lick the entire length and keep repeating it. Keep making a sound as it is a turn-on for men.
Step 4. Hold the base and slowly take up the entire length into the mouth and then slurp or suck gently and increase the pressure if you want.
Step 5. You can also take balls in the mouth and suck them gently. Keep looking in the eye for pleasure and gauging the reaction.
Positions Which Give Maximum Pleasure
Just like a woman partner, male partners will get maximum pleasure in specific positions. Let’s have a look-
Lay on your back and keep your head hanging from the bed. Your man will stand and slowly put the penis in your mouth. It is very relaxing and pleasurable for men.
Sit & Suck
A single chair can be used for two different positions. Let your partner sit on the chair while you kneel in front of him and take the matter into your own hands and mouth. Or you can sit also so that your head is aligned with his penis. He can stand a foot apart on the chair and let you have the organ.
Lazy morning blowjobs are great. This is a position that derives its inspiration from there. Lay on your side and start having fun with his dick and balls.
Safety and Cleaning
Do you know what you can try? Flavored condoms. Safe and secure and fun to have in your mouth. This also reduces the risk of STIs and something tasty is there. Cleaning up can be done with a shower and body soap that is gentle and refreshing.
Something that both the male and females enjoy. It is great pleasure and some people have anatomy that is very sensitive around that area. But few things need to be kept in mind. Proper cleaning should be done. Soap is necessary. Water should be used abundantly to properly clean the anus and surrounding area. Let sweat wash off. If you are uncomfortable with hairs down there, shave them.
Confusion is about the insertion. Again it is about comfort level but cleaning is necessary. Fingers and licking are okay and very pleasurable.
We will go step by step-
Step 1. Start licking the butt and kissing the whole area to warm up. But cheeks are sensitive for both man and woman.
Step 2. Start by flat tongue on the whole area and slowly circle around the whole. Use lots of salivae to create moisture and start slurping up the juices.
Step 3. Make a pointy tongue and start using the tip to slow insert into the hole and tap on the surrounding area. Start firm and geo gentle and faster as you want to build pressure.
Step 4. Okay with penetration? Insert the tongue as it seems possible and then suck or apply pressure inside. You can also use anal toys for widening the whole.
Step 5. In between slurp around the vagina or penis and go all over it again.
Doggy style is great for rim job as it exposes maximum of the anal area and perceiving the hole is easily facilitated. You also control pressure while doing it.
Partner can lie down ono the back and let his/her knee up in the air and partner can slurp around on the focus area. Use pillows and cushions for support.
Anal job is great when facesitting is done. You also get to control where you want to put the tongue. Lying partner can straighten up the tongue and standing one can move around his/her butt.
Safety & Cleaning
Dental dams, condoms, and tongue condoms are great. Safe rimming should be followed. Make sure that your fingernails are smoothly cut and cleaning is really important. Use lots of soap and water for cleaning before and after the activity. Enema can also be done. Oral rinsing and brushing the teeth is also an important step.
Some Special Tips
Now you know the basics. So we can move to advanced areas where simple things can lead to increased pleasure. Let’s have a look at them one by one-
- Ask and communicate
- Breath is Magical
- Moaning is Like Heaven
- Listening to each other responding to the touch and feel is really amazing. This also communicates to your partner that you are enjoying. It may be slurping noises during a blowjob or slow whispers during clit sucking. Make noises, have fun and tell your partner by pressing his head or guiding her. Let them hear that you are feeling what the other one is giving. It is also a great turn-on.
- Locking Eyes
- Looking into their eyes while giving oral jobs to them feels great. You can lock eyes and do some naughty things with them. Eye contact is sexy. Almost half of the porn is all about eye contact. So many of us have gotten off while looking into the eyes on the screen. When in real life, do that, you can also then gauge what is working and nothing to be said, just plunge deep into oral pleasure.
- Use Hands Vigorously
- Oral doesn’t mean you can’t use your fingers or hands. In fact, this will add to the pleasure. Insert a finger or two into the vagina while sucking the clit. Or insert the tongue into the vagina and use the thumb to rub the clit. This will increase the pleasure. Touch their butts. A rim job can be sexy when simultaneously labia is touched. The same thing goes with a blowjob. Use hands. Fondle their balls while sucking the dick. Fondle dick while sucking balls. Mix it up.
- Explore Surrounding Areas
- Thighs have so many nerve endings that you can’t imagine. Use the whole area. Go wide and deep. That line that connects the anal region and vagina/penis, creates pressure there. Crevice can be licked for increased pleasure. All of the areas are for you to explore. Use sex toys during oral pleasure. They are great.
- Flavoured Lube for Work & Don’t Forget Cream/ Chocolate
- Eating during sex is great. Use flavored lube that can be eaten to create an atmosphere that is kinky and naughty. It creates juice. Add cream to the mix. The rim job is great when the cream is there. You can lick it off the genitals. If you love chocolates, use syrups or normal chocolate. Make it tasty. Eat off each other’s genitals. Kiss, make love. Food is love, so love is food.
- Use orgasm control method i.e. control orgasms. Just as your partner is on the verge of ejaculation, stop and do another thing. Repeat this till they are unable to control it. This will give maximum satisfaction and hugely powerful orgasms. Create a gap of 30 seconds after coming near orgasm and start your activity again.
- Nipple Play
- Women have the most sensitive erogenous zones near breasts, especially round areolas. Good fondling of breasts and licking the areolas and nipples will moisten up the vagina. Use it for warming up and in between lick them for increased sensation.
- Clit Sucking
- Want to give a powerful orgasm. Solely focus on the clit and suck powerfully, don’t slurp, don’t lick. Just put the clit in your mouth and suck until she comes. It gives really powerful orgasms.
- Infinity Motion
- This has its own charm. Make figure 8 or infinity sign on the clit or surrounding area. It can also be done with the penis and anal area. It works really well and is great for satisfying results.
- Alphabet Games
- Start writing their name letter by letter on the genitals. It is fun to play and sexy as hell. You will enjoy it a lot while you are pleasuring him or her.
- Spreading and Licking
- Special for the woman. Males, listen, spread the labia using your two fingers and lick thoroughly. The underside has so many nerve endings that it creates pleasurable tingling sensations throughout the body. In fact, it can lead to multiple orgasms too.
- Grab the Breasts
- Be wild during oral pleasure. Tweak the nipples while your tongue is working on the clit or anal area. Double pleasure will lead to increased sensations and you both will feel an increase in pleasure.
- Include Porn
- It depends on the comfort of your partner. Some couples love watching porn or imitating the scenes that they are watching. It is great fun if you are both into that. The best thing is that you will get so much variety that it can go on for infinity. Just lie on the sofa and start having fun.
- Shower Sex
- Wet sex is great. Jump into the shower with your partner and start having fun. The water and orgasm combined with oral pleasure will lead to so much satisfaction that you will ask for it more and more.
- Use Ice
- The temperature change can do something entirely different for pleasure. Use ice cubes for oral pleasure. Put the ice on the vulva and start having fun. It will create a temperature shift and lead to increased pleasure. You can also put ice in your mouth and then put the cold tongue on the slit and then slowly warm up. Use it for a blowjob and he will have intense orgasms.
- Some Advice on Clit Sucking From Real Life People
- We asked many of our real-life friends and online friends for tips on clit sucking which gives them pleasure. And they keep answering. Here we are presenting some real-life tips from the real audience that they communicated with us. See which one suits you and if you want to try everything-
- Jully, 30 – I love the zipper technique. I ask my partner to start licking the slit of the vagina and move to the clit and then back down. It’s just like a zipper opening and closing. Experiencing this gives so much pleasure that I can’t explain.
- Maggi, 23 – He used a G-spot wand while circling my clit, and God!! What an orgasm it was. Telling all the guys to use this thing. G-spot stimulation plus oral job, Ummm. Loved it.
- Nia, 28 – Never gnaw. It’s not cheese. Not a thing to eat. Too sensitive area. Man, be gentle with it.
- Honey, 32 – Okay, I am going to tell you the secret for multiple orgasms. So he started using a vibrator on the clit and was slurping on the outer side. Then suddenly I felt his finger in the anus and thumb was alongside the vibrator into the vagina. And god, this triple sensation made my night. So fucking incredible. I came 3 times in a row.
- Sam, 27 – So when he started making sounds while licking and slurping, I grabbed his head and pushed hard into my vagina. What a relief it was to have so much pressure condensed at one place and he kept doing it. In fact, he opened his whole mouth and the whole breath and warm air plus open mouth were amazing.
- Some Advice on Blowjob From Real Life People
- Let’s have a look at what men have to say about blowjob techniques –
- Mark, 29 – It was great having so much saliva down on my dick. I like it wet. Plus she was pressing my butt and it felt really great. Eye contact is necessary. Never miss it.
- Ron, 33 – I liked it when she put her finger in my anus while sucking my balls. The ball sucking is great if she is gentle with it. The alternate motion combined with dick sucking plus a finger in the anus is great. Try it once.
- William, 24 – I like when someone sucks the top part. It is really pleasurable. Especially when the pressure has increased. Just keep sucking the top part and I feel great having the tongue. Also, her moaning keeps me going. I love moaning!! Girls, moan, please.
- Dan, 34 – Rim job. Always the rim job. I won't start from there. Yes, we cleaned up, and man, what the hell was that. So much pleasure. Then she moved towards dick and just put the whole of that into her mouth. And I kept cumming.
- Roger, 28 – I like it when someone combines slurp plus sucking. Also, since I like deepthroat I have a tendency to put pressure on their head. The control factor turns me on and I can get off easily.