Putting the spark back in your relationship
By: Onlineintimates
Published on October 03, 2020
Published on October 03, 2020
If you are currently going through this with your relationship read the following tips. The usual graph of every relationship goes through this phase. The phase of extreme physical and emotional attraction where keeping your hands away from each other was a tough thing that has turned into a monotonous routine of living together. Everything seems like a task and there is no spark left. Nothing to make your heart beat faster, and especially in bed. The fire seems to be burnt out.
What to do then?
Experts say it is possible to bring back all the happy memories and atmosphere that one has at the beginning of a relationship where everything is charged with sexual attraction. So lets go through some of our top tips for you to bring that spark back!!!
What to do then?
Experts say it is possible to bring back all the happy memories and atmosphere that one has at the beginning of a relationship where everything is charged with sexual attraction. So lets go through some of our top tips for you to bring that spark back!!!
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1. Make of List of Sexual Fantasies (Together)
What makes the spark go out? Monotonous life. Routine activities. The same activity over and over again. What drives us towards new things? What was the cause of the initial spark in the relationship? It was the question of exploring something new. And yes you can do that. Our mind has unlimited possibilities regarding everything on earth. So sit together and make a list of all of your sexual fantasies. Don’t think about there, just tell each other, write it down. It might happen that your partner is dying to try that one out for a long time but couldn’t say so because of various things. Next, ask each other how willing are you to fulfill the fantasy of others. It will surely open up new possibilities to talk about. To try something new. New excitement. |
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2. Use Sex Toys (Together)
The sex toy industry has grown a lot better in past years. There are thousands of sex toys which you can enjoy in your alone time as well as together. And it is certified that using sex toys in the right manner allows one to get in touch with his/her own sexuality and re-ignites the spark. Best of all, it is fun, it is private and it gives you control in your own hands. Use toys together and maybe you love it. Try using sex toys in your regular sex routine. This will add variety and increase the amount of fun and excitement.
3. Try Kinky Text and Sex Chat
Yes, it’s a new age and new ways. Kinky text around the day keeps the mystery and anticipation buildup leading to sexual arousal through hormonal secretion. Couples who engage in kinky text and sex chat regularly are tested to be more sexually active. It introduces the mystery factor back again in the game and this leads to all the more fun.
4. Spontaneity is The Key
Waking up your partner by sexual activity, surprising them with a sexy text and date, going up to them spontaneously in the kitchen, and having fun are some of the spontaneous methods which work like magic. The element here is a surprise that secretes dopamine leading to excitement and keeping the fire ignited between the couple. Plan a surprising kink, be home early, and have a sexy date, use sex toys as gifts and use them together are more options you can try out.
5. Kiss and Touch More Often
Kissing is magical. The short burst of dopamine around the day keeps the body wanting more. Touching in public is healthy to maintain the excitement level in the relationship. It works as a bridge between the couple over which they can talk about anything. Short bursts lead to anticipation and anticipation leads to a long stretch of lovemaking leading to happy sexual life.
6. Communicate Your Desires
The main cause of spark going out is the loss of communication. Try new ways to communicate better. If you have kids, use the help of a babysitter to get with your partner in a separate place where you can just focus on each other and talk about your needs. It could be over a weekend getaway, a secret date place, or a trip to somewhere romantic. Where you can both reconcile and talk. Talk about your hidden desires and the things you want to do together, your future plans, and what you feel about things right now. Understanding creates a healthy mindset and mindset affects sexual thoughts directly.
7. No-Limit Activities!
Don’t take the words wrongly. It is just a simple but effective method. Talk about the time and days and specify when one of the partners can do anything with the other without any foundation for that particular period of time. Of course here the first thing is the not-comfortable-with-it list. And then give your consent to each other about all the other things you can try. Whether it is the use of lube, role play, new sex toy, BDSM, using porn, sexual talk, place or new position, and more; anything which is not out of bounds can be done by the other one for however long he/she wants. This will create a new dynamic in the relationship.
Keeping a relationship healthy takes efforts. On both ends. Life today is very fast and very hectic with all the distractions. But there are some good things too. Using these new things in your relationship and life will surely boost the life and energy between you and your partner. It’s all about variety and exploration. Never stop exploring new horizons. Use whatever you are comfortable with and play with it. Who knows what works best for you? And communicate. That is the main thing. Also, make time for each other in this busy world. Try to ask the questions about the state of things in the starting and that will give you clues.
The sex toy industry has grown a lot better in past years. There are thousands of sex toys which you can enjoy in your alone time as well as together. And it is certified that using sex toys in the right manner allows one to get in touch with his/her own sexuality and re-ignites the spark. Best of all, it is fun, it is private and it gives you control in your own hands. Use toys together and maybe you love it. Try using sex toys in your regular sex routine. This will add variety and increase the amount of fun and excitement.
3. Try Kinky Text and Sex Chat
Yes, it’s a new age and new ways. Kinky text around the day keeps the mystery and anticipation buildup leading to sexual arousal through hormonal secretion. Couples who engage in kinky text and sex chat regularly are tested to be more sexually active. It introduces the mystery factor back again in the game and this leads to all the more fun.
4. Spontaneity is The Key
Waking up your partner by sexual activity, surprising them with a sexy text and date, going up to them spontaneously in the kitchen, and having fun are some of the spontaneous methods which work like magic. The element here is a surprise that secretes dopamine leading to excitement and keeping the fire ignited between the couple. Plan a surprising kink, be home early, and have a sexy date, use sex toys as gifts and use them together are more options you can try out.
5. Kiss and Touch More Often
Kissing is magical. The short burst of dopamine around the day keeps the body wanting more. Touching in public is healthy to maintain the excitement level in the relationship. It works as a bridge between the couple over which they can talk about anything. Short bursts lead to anticipation and anticipation leads to a long stretch of lovemaking leading to happy sexual life.
6. Communicate Your Desires
The main cause of spark going out is the loss of communication. Try new ways to communicate better. If you have kids, use the help of a babysitter to get with your partner in a separate place where you can just focus on each other and talk about your needs. It could be over a weekend getaway, a secret date place, or a trip to somewhere romantic. Where you can both reconcile and talk. Talk about your hidden desires and the things you want to do together, your future plans, and what you feel about things right now. Understanding creates a healthy mindset and mindset affects sexual thoughts directly.
7. No-Limit Activities!
Don’t take the words wrongly. It is just a simple but effective method. Talk about the time and days and specify when one of the partners can do anything with the other without any foundation for that particular period of time. Of course here the first thing is the not-comfortable-with-it list. And then give your consent to each other about all the other things you can try. Whether it is the use of lube, role play, new sex toy, BDSM, using porn, sexual talk, place or new position, and more; anything which is not out of bounds can be done by the other one for however long he/she wants. This will create a new dynamic in the relationship.
Keeping a relationship healthy takes efforts. On both ends. Life today is very fast and very hectic with all the distractions. But there are some good things too. Using these new things in your relationship and life will surely boost the life and energy between you and your partner. It’s all about variety and exploration. Never stop exploring new horizons. Use whatever you are comfortable with and play with it. Who knows what works best for you? And communicate. That is the main thing. Also, make time for each other in this busy world. Try to ask the questions about the state of things in the starting and that will give you clues.
